How to Prepare Your Child for Their First Play Therapy Session
You’ve taken the first step and booked your child’s first play therapy session—now what?
Explaining play therapy to your child can feel like a daunting task—especially if you’re still figuring out exactly what it involves yourself! At its core, play therapy is based on the idea that while adults communicate primarily through words, children express themselves through play. Garry Landreth, a foundational figure in child-centered play therapy, put it simply: “For children, toys are their words, and play is their language.” Children use play to process their emotions and experiences, and the therapist joins them in this process by observing and reflecting what they see. This kind of attuned interaction helps children feel seen, heard, and validated.
So how do you explain this to your child in a way that makes sense? Maybe you’re seeking therapy to support your child through anxiety, behavior challenges, or emotional stress—and those very concerns might make it tough to even get them through the door. If your child is hesitant or says they don’t want to go, know that you’re not alone. It’s common for kids (and adults!) to feel uncertain about entering a new space or meeting someone new. They may also worry that something is “wrong” with them or that they’re in trouble.
When talking to your child about play therapy, try to keep your language simple and reassuring. You might say, “Play therapy is kind of like visiting a doctor, but for your feelings. When you’re sick, a doctor helps your body feel better. A play therapist helps your heart and feelings feel better. But there are no shots, stethoscopes, or bandaids—instead, you get to use toys, games, and art.” For younger children or those who might feel overwhelmed, you can simplify even further: “You’re going to meet someone who helps kids feel better by playing.”
If your child tends to be anxious, it helps to clarify that they’re not in trouble and that therapy is a safe space to share big feelings. Consider reading a book with them that introduces the concept of play therapy—My Book About Play Therapy is a great one. You can also show them a picture of the playroom from the therapist’s website or drive by the office before the first session so it feels more familiar. Some children feel more comfortable bringing a favorite toy or stuffed animal, which can be a great way to ease first-session nerves.
After the session, your child may want to talk all about the playroom—or they may say very little. Both responses are completely okay. The best way to support them is by allowing them the space to share (or not share) on their own terms. A gentle phrase like, “I hope you enjoyed your playtime today!” gives them that freedom. Keep in mind that sometimes children leave play therapy in a quiet or unsettled mood. That doesn’t mean it wasn’t helpful—it may just mean they were working through some big feelings. If possible, build in time to decompress after sessions. You might create a comforting routine, like stopping for a treat, reading a book together, or offering quiet play when you get home.
Remember, starting play therapy is a brave step for both you and your child. It’s okay if the process feels a little uncertain at first—new experiences often do. Over time, play therapy can become a space where your child feels safe, supported, and empowered to express themselves. Trust that healing can happen through play, one session at a time.
